You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathic, but you also have to be confident.

Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for all.

Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with a balance of courage and consideration for others.

Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments.

This involves exercising each of the following traits when interacting with others: To adopt this mindset, you must cultivate the habit of interpersonal leadership. Win-win is a frame of mind that seeks out solutions between individuals and groups that everyone benefits from, and all are satisfied with the outcome. It’s striking the balance between acting with consideration and courage. That doesn’t mean having to choose between being nice or tough. And vice versa.Ĭovey’s viewpoint is that we should be focusing on cooperation not competition. This can be hard for many people to grasp, as we’re brought up thinking that in order for me to win, someone needs to lose. So here’s our short summary of the 7 Habits:Īs the title suggests, Think Win-Win is all about working together to achieve optimal results. This puts us in a better place to navigate real problems in challenging times, and also be ready to take advantage of opportunities that change creates. From there, we can move to a state of interdependence where working together can achieve far greater results than working alone. Covey’s habits shift our thinking from being dependent on the world, to the independence of making our own world. In fact it’s more relevant than ever before, in this age where everyone wants a quick fix. These principles form the basis for his best-selling book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, which has sold over 40 million copies since its release over 30 years ago.Ĭovey’s thinking has certainly stood the test of time.

This ‘character-ethic’ is based on timeless principles of fairness, integrity, honesty, and human dignity. What we are says far more than what we say or do. What he found is that success is built on our character, not personality.

How do we define and sustain success? This was the question that drove Stephen Covey to pour over 200 years of self-help, self-improvement and popular psychology books in search of an answer.

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